"Pastor, I've been hearing married people advise singles to cherish their single years and not rush into marriage. They're saying marriage is like hard labor. What's your opinion on this?"

 

If you're not planning to be like Apostle Paul, then consider getting married early. People often advise against rushing into marriage, but that's because marriage tests your faith in God like nothing else. It's a tough test because it triggers your emotions. It's easy to pray for a stranger or a sick person, but it's different when it's your own child or spouse, someone you deeply care about. It's easy to say it's God's will when you can't heal a sick person, but when it's your family member, you might struggle to accept God's plan.

Many people have lost faith in God because of marriage. They blame God when a loved one dies, even after praying tirelessly. Some pastors have even turned away from God because of the challenges in marriage. But King David showed us a different way. Even when his child died, he still trusted God and continued serving Him faithfully. He didn't let his emotions overpower his faith.

If you see a strong man of God who has succeeded in marriage, it's because he doesn't let his emotions control him. He deals with everything from a spiritual perspective. He loves his family, but he loves God more. Bishop Oyedepo is a great example of this. When his wife was sick, he didn't let it demoralize him. He continued serving God with even more passion.

In marriage, if you live according to your emotions, you'll struggle to overcome the challenges that come your way. But if you operate from a place of spirituality, you'll have the strength to endure. It's important to express love to your family and be romantic with your spouse, but your spirituality should always come first.

If you're waiting to get married until you have enough money or feel fully prepared, you might be waiting forever. Marriage requires more than just financial stability or readiness. It requires revelation from God. You need to understand why you're getting married and how your spouse will contribute to your life. Once you have this revelation, you'll be ready for marriage.

God doesn't have to tell you who to marry. You just need to have a clear understanding of why marriage is important for you. Physical strength is also important for marriage. It's easier to handle the responsibilities of marriage when you're young and full of energy.

In conclusion, don't rush into marriage without understanding its purpose in your life. Marriage is more than just fulfilling a desire or having children. If Apostle Paul didn't see a purpose for marriage in his life, then it's okay if you feel the same way. Focus on understanding God's plan for your life, and everything else will fall into place.

I hope this has given you some clarity.

Remain blessed!